Friday, March 12, 2010

I'm Different

There are many topics I expect Bubba to bring up throughout his life. At some point I'm sure he will want birth family information and maybe even photos. He may want to know why we chose to adopt or why he was placed for adoption. I even anticipated the "where was I born" questions while I was pregnant, but I had no idea the "I am different" conversation would surface for at least a few more years.
As I was getting the kids ready for bed Bubba said, "Baby and me don't like us!". When I asked what he meant he repeated the statement. I, then, incorrectly assumed he was trying to say that Baby didn't like him or he didn't like Baby, so I assured him that Baby is his friend. This is when it all started.
"Well... I don't like me."
"Why don't you like you?" Evander questioned.
"I'm different!"
"What do you mean?" I asked.
"I'm different from baby." he elaborated.
"How are you different?"
"I'm brown and Baby is not."
Evander and I looked at one another in complete shock. I anticipated this conversation around 5 or 6 but never 4. We continued the conversation by explaining that everyone is different, but they also have things that are the same. We went through his list of friends as he told us what color each one was, and then we assured him that we love him no matter what color he may be.
After he went to bed I sat on the couch in amazement. His intelligence shines with each of these conversations, and his growth since beginning the attachment parenting is unbelievable. He has really begun to make progress, and I am happy with how far we have come.

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